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Undisturbed luxury

    In my friend’s small study room, there is a small refrigerator, which contains perfume and some skin care products that are not frequently used, facial masks, and skin care samples. In summer, she also put some soda in handily, and took it out to drink while reading.

   This small refrigerator has been there since she rented the house. Later, she bought a house by herself and moved in with it.

   "Renting a house doesn't have much of its own furniture, and all use the landlord's. Such a small refrigerator, filled with my beautiful wishes, moving from one home to another, feels quite a sense of belonging." She said.

   She is not a hoarder. There are five or six perfume bottles and seven or eight lipsticks—most urban girls have so many. But everyone who goes to her house curiously opens this small cosmetic refrigerator, and can't help but sigh: Wow, it's so extravagant.

   She smiled modestly and explained that Shanghai is hot in summer and perfumes are easy to smell. At the beginning, I bought this refrigerator mainly to preserve the perfume. Later I found that the mask is also very good in it. Put it on the face coldly, and the skin becomes firm all at once. Up.

   A small single-door refrigerator is the meticulousness and exquisiteness that does not need to spend a lot of money. It is the heart that you are willing to make yourself better.

   Another friend has two children in the family. The children build nests everywhere like swallows, smashing the housewife’s glorious dream of cooking and decorating her husband.

   But no matter how skinned the children are, they all know that their mother's desk is sacred and inviolable.

   On that desk, there is a handmade tablecloth of the "Wuyou" brand, a Japanese "Ukiyo-e" koi, a "MUJI" incense lamp, and an Austrian crystal vase with different flowers flowing in the four seasons. There is also a laptop and a book or two.

   This corner is the cleanest and tidy place for the whole family. Even if my mother comes to my aunt when she catches a cold, she will keep it spotless and beautiful. This is also a restricted area for children. Who dares to touch the things on this table? Really want to bloom.

   The mother of the child's playmate comes to play at home, and when she sees this paradise-style desk, she will also sigh: You are too extravagant.

   This kind of luxury also doesn't need to spend any money, but I don't know how many mothers' bitter tears are brought.

   When a woman becomes a mother, she becomes XX’s mother in the community social group or the kindergarten QQ group. As a girl, she is often dormant. Her life revolves around the child, and the family becomes her. The most important thing.

   To be able to maintain a complete and own thing in this complicated world, and often immerse yourself in it, is a luxury.

   Luxury is the thing that allows us to find ourselves.

   I like the word luxury, and of course I like luxury. But the luxury goods I understand may be different from ordinary people. I don’t think that a bag bought with a lot of money is a luxury. If I buy such a thing, I usually say to my friend: "I bought an expensive bag today."




   Expensive is the most intuitive feeling for these things. As for whether it is extravagant or not, it depends on how you use it in what mood.

   An internet celebrity friend has made a lot of money doing live broadcasts in the past few years. She bought a bunch of expensive bags and threw them in a room. Because there was no time to clean up, the room looked like a rich man’s attic, dusty and messy. , This kind of life is expensive, but not extravagant.

   The most luxurious thing in life is not money, but companionship. It is luxury to spend money to buy high-quality companionship. Whether it is the small cosmetic refrigerator or the exquisite desk corner in the home occupied by bear children, they are essentially companions that can truly comfort people, and are the tranquility we obtain outside the chaotic life

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