I've recently discovered a harsh truth: People hang out with me mostly to ease age anxiety.
I often work with a photographer who is more than 10 years younger than me. On the way home, he sighed to the makeup artist, "Sister Lamb is still the same as when she was young. I think we can fight for another 20 years."
My readers like to see the comparison between old and new photos. In the past, MY aesthetic was not so good, nor did I exercise. Although I was young, I was still young, and my photoshop skills were not as good as they are now. "Finally, I see a woman who looks more beautiful as she gets older, and suddenly feels less afraid of getting old.
Absolutely did not think of, originally aspire to be just female oneself, live slowly became a "fight decline mascot". As for how this road is crooked, may be because The Times are different, talented women and celebrities, in the context of the new era, slowly pantothenic acid and even stink. And an ordinary talent but self-improvement, vitality of the middle-aged full mark, to stand in the crowd, everyone will think, wow, she can, I can too!
Now that I'm a living mascot, I'd like to further satisfy you with my ultimate anti-aging secret.
First of all, it is not easy to grow old if you refuse to accept or recognize your old age.
In my dictionary, all the stages of life are called "youth" except for the inexorable decline towards the end, when life cannot take care of itself. Similarly, Bai Yansong interviewed Huang Yongyu, a man in his eighties. Seeing him driving a red Ferrari, he blurted out, "Isn't this something for young people to play with?" Huang Lao replied: "I am not young?" A lot of people think Huang Lao humor, I think not, he really think so, can be a lifetime wild child.
Second, do at least one new thing every day.
When do people get old completely? It was when he began to live in the past, with only experience of life, and lost his curiosity, and everything new had nothing to do with him. At that level, I've seen 25-year-olds, I've seen 52-year-olds.
It's easy to do one new thing every day: wear a suit for ten years and try a pair of sweatpants. You've never used an air mattress before. Try a sample at the free trial counter at the mall...
I once watched an old couple in a milk tea shop that just opened learn how to get coupons on Dianping and then sit in the shop with two cups of Online celebrity milk tea to drink and comment. I thought they were very young at that time.
The sense of youthful atmosphere is fluid, and embracing freshness is the core of maintaining youthful atmosphere. Of course, it's not fresh, it's curious, you look good.
Finally, eliminate complex relationships and maintain simple judgment and life.
The vigor of youth is enough to turn life into a circus of complexity, whereas the vigor of the eternally young consists in slowly reducing life to doing only what is useful to them. Especially in the interpersonal relationship to do subtraction, don't worry about the heart, including the children.
The strongest bond in any relationship in the world is mutual benefit. It is to their real advantage that you live as a young, middle-aged, graceful old man. Young people don't need you to guide their lives unless you can give them money. Their only requirement is "mind your own business".
Anxiety about time is the ultimate anxiety of life. On the one hand we have to accept fate, on the other hand we can not accept fate, after all, every day in the future, we are the youngest of their own. Accept fate, ability has stable mood, sufficient wisdom, discard the dross and select the best ground to manage oneself, live vigorous up, the young feeling that does not accept fate.
One particular insight that stuck in my mind while listening to Positive Psychology was that many people today have two types of happiness --
One is the drowning mentality, where it's like being in a pool of water all the time. Wait for me to hold a breath, was admitted to the university; Wait for me to hold a breath, on the graduate student; Just wait till I hold my breath and find a good job. Wait for me to hold a breath, entrepreneurship is good; After you start a business, you will find that hard work has just begun... A drowning mentality will not do.
The other is the outing mentality, where the whole process is happy from the process to the result. Just like when we heard the announcement of spring outing in our childhood, we would jump happily, get ready happily when we got home, and then chat with our classmates happily on the bus. We were very excited at every moment when we arrived at the destination, and the whole process was full of happiness.
Our goal in life, may be the top of the mountain, is the peak of the happiness, but in this journey, we should be able to enjoy the happiness at any time, the mountain is happy, the mountain is also happy. This requires us to strive to develop an "outing mentality".
When you can feel the joy of every step of the way, your life will accumulate a collection of happy albums instead of painful memories. That's the way to be happy.