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The wish of "please understand me" will reduce one's temperament

 　　People who are unaware of what they want to do or why they are doing that have difficulty understanding other people's ideas and empathizing.

　　On this point, my university’s psychology teacher once said: “If you want to understand the human mind, you should read a lot of novels instead of taking psychology classes. The psychological description of the characters in the novel is nuanced, which is more conducive to understanding the human mind than psychology. "To this day, I still agree with this sentence very much.

　　I often hear adolescent children complaining: "Why don't their parents understand me?" When faced with adolescent rebellious children, parents don't know how to respond.

　　How many children can appreciate the mood of their parents? Many people never develop the habit of observing each other when they are growing up. Therefore, when they grow up, they only think about their own thoughts, and don't care about other people's thoughts and thoughts, and just impose their own thoughts on each other.

　　I like the following sentence very much: "Why do people like to say that they are neurotic?" The "why" in the sentence is a good question. The meaning is not to deny neurotic people, but to communicate with them and feel warm and open-minded. . If it is pathologically neurotic, the people around you should try to understand it. And people who say that they are neurotic want the other person to be more patient, and the implication is to justly ask the other person to accept themselves, so such people sometimes arouse the other's resentment.

　　It is human nature to hope that others understand themselves. Even if the whole world is against you, as long as one person understands himself, it is like getting tens of thousands of reinforcements, and the mentality will become stronger. However, desperately trying to find understanding and recognition will make your mind less.

　　Instead of this, it is better to try to be a strong spiritual pillar of others, instead, you can increase your mind and peace of mind.

　　The shortcut to let others like yourself is to like others first.

　　Similarly, if you want others to understand yourself, the best way is to understand others well. Want to be someone who understands others, why not try to read some novels first?


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