A person who can speak does not necessarily say the right thing, but it must follow the other person's mind. Only when the other party feels it is appropriate can they feel pleasant and like to hear it. Not too straight, not too roundabout. This is a measure of measure and the use of skills. Therefore, being able to speak has become an art.
I don't recommend telling the truth on any occasion. Because sometimes the truth can really hurt people, but it can't be a lie. Because, lies will eventually pit themselves. What suits the other person's heart is a good word.
There is a standard here. That is, when you talk to the other person, you have to be sincere in your heart. When people are dishonest in their hearts, it is easy to say worldly words and tactful words. Even if these words are not leaking, they will not stand up to scrutiny.
Whoever you meet on a certain day is due to your self-cultivation; and whoever you want to be with all your life is almost a fate.
Is there a kind of person in this world, you like to listen to what the other party says? The answer is, no. Unless you love him dearly. It's not that the other party speaks well, it's that deep love cancels out all the unhappiness. No one is born to say nice things for you. Even your parents.
In this sense, it is normal to hear a few harsh words occasionally in life. No one has to make you happy. When you understand this truth, it is not so easy to get hurt.
Of course, you are not so easily injured, and you will gradually get used to all the things you were not used to before. I felt that those mean words, those bitter people, were actually no big deal.
People who say one thing and do another will not be convinced by what they say. In fact, he doesn't even believe in himself.
Some of these people are pure liars, and some are "moralists" who demand more from others than themselves. Essentially, "moralists" are also liars. The difference is that the liar will be exposed, and there will be a day when everything will be revealed, and the "moralist" will always dress up in a high-sounding manner, both before and after the event.
The scary part is also here, the liar may only lie to you once, and these people will lie to you for a lifetime.
Some people, you talk to him with your heart, but he always puts on a look of indifference. To such a person, if you have anything to say in the future, try not to say anything. People who don't give your heart to your heart are not worth it.
Therefore, in terms of individual life experience, you should especially cherish those who are willing to listen to you. On a worldly level, cherish those who are willing to listen to the voice of the weak.
Such people are generous, kind, and the most heart-warming force in the world.
It definitely makes sense to talk less than talk more. More meaningful is silence. Sometimes there is value in silence.
Becoming a chatterbox is a very scary thing for both men and women. Men are especially scary, because they talk too much, and over time, they lose the most important thing in the world - being respected.
Talking less is not the same as not talking.
In my opinion, the most wonderful organ of human beings is the mouth. But the greatest organ should be the ear.