How to set your network boundaries?

 　　"Boundaries" are self-protection when you're overburdened, a way of expressing reasonable expectations to others, and the key to helping you experience safety and comfort in your relationships. Self-love is all about setting boundaries. Self-discipline is the act of setting boundaries for oneself.

　　When working with clients in psychotherapy, I often hear them list the downsides of social media, such as feeling left out, endless comparisons, and pretending to be too tired. Not only was I worried that I would get caught up in it, but I was also worried about whether I was, consciously or unintentionally, creating dissatisfaction and jealousy in others. But experience has taught me that you can never control how others react to what you share.

　　As a psychotherapist, every post I post has a purpose, and I think about how it will react to it. However, there are always people who will deliberately misinterpret what I mean when they read. Also, I found that their interpretations were often not related to my expressions, but rather related to their own lives.

　　In a big way, our various consumption on the network is controllable. When we encounter something we don't like watching, we can choose whether to continue watching it or not. By giving up that option and continuing to focus on the things that bother us, we agree to continue to be bothered.

　　As an active social media user, I set some boundaries for my account and keep them at the top of my social software homepage for a long time. I'm not suggesting that everyone should do the same. However, if your account is used for professional communication, or you are an internet celebrity, or you receive a lot of letters from netizens every day, consider setting some boundaries for yourself like me. By exposing your boundaries, you are teaching people how to effectively interact with you.

　　Even with such clear boundaries, there are still people who want to test my bottom line. In the face of temptation, all I can do is stick to each of the boundaries I set out.

　　I've been enjoying "Missed Joy" for years. There are actually many benefits to being an outsider in the internet world. Living in the information age, it is imperative to create your own healthy lifestyle by setting boundaries.

　　If you wake up without your phone

　　Don't put your phone next to your bed while you sleep. Before going to bed, remember to put your phone away from the bed, such as across the room.

　　Or simply put it in another room. Think about what you can do when you wake up other than looking at your phone. Such as brushing your teeth and face, writing in a journal, hugging your partner or stretching your limbs. In short, you can do anything, just don't look at your phone.

　　If you look at your phone a lot,

　　keep your phone out of reach, or put it in another room to charge. Train yourself to shut down for a few hours a day. Create a timetable for social media use and set strict time periods when social media use is prohibited.

　　If you use social media

　　excessively , keep track of your usage time. You can set a time limit for using social media on your phone. Once that time limit is reached, all your social media software will be automatically logged out, or a prompt message will pop up asking you to confirm whether to ignore the time limit. Some software also comes with a reminder function to warn you how long it has been used. Now that you've made up your mind to set boundaries for yourself, you must stick to them.

　　If you feel a blow to your self-esteem and self-worth, or even jealousy or resentment

　　I conducted a social media poll in which 33% of the participants said that even if they didn’t like what others posted on social media, they were very happy It's hard to unfollow these people.

　　Choose carefully which accounts to follow and why. If all the friends around you follow a well-known Internet celebrity, but the content of this account will make you jealous, or even feel self-pity, the correct choice at this time is not to follow the trend. Once you find out which accounts are disturbing your emotions, you should unfollow, block or close message notifications as soon as possible, and then repair yourself. After these adverse reactions are completely eliminated and psychological construction is done, you should re-follow those accounts.