Don't let companionship become a luxury

 　　A while ago, a piece of news about “the old man made a will and a million real estate as a nanny” was topped by a hot search on Weibo. Someone asked, how can the nanny take a salary and take care of the elderly but do their duty, how can they afford such a gift? From the perspective of the children, the gifting behavior of the elderly is indeed selfish and selfish. However, why does this happen?

　　Doesn't the old man know that the nanny is paid? no. It's just that under the years of loneliness, he couldn't make the most rational choice in the eyes of others. For the elderly, the most precious thing is not money, but company. And this most precious companionship is given by the nanny.

　　At a certain age, people will understand more and more that some things cannot be bought with money. The old man used his life's external objects in exchange for the most important thing in his life-companionship.

　　The loneliness of the elderly is far beyond your imagination. The writer Yi Zhou spent a year walking through the streets, listening to and recording the stories of more than twenty old people in the evening, and wrote a column called "I'm Too Lonely in this World". One of the stories is about Lao Li and his wife. The old couple are both researchers at the Provincial Institute of Electronics. They have two sons, both graduated from prestigious schools, and both settled in Beijing. In a secular sense, their merits are fulfilled. However, the two sons lived far away in Beijing, and the old couple lived in an empty nest for nearly ten years. The old couple’s income is not low, but they dare not go to Beijing to disturb their children’s lives; and for the two sons, no one took the initiative to pick up the elderly to live in. The daughter-in-laws even "joked" in front of the elderly and said: "The average living area per capita in the country is now The standard for a well-off society is 30 square meters. If one of us squeezes in two people, we will immediately live below the well-off line.” Living with children has become a luxury. The two elderly people can barely live with them, but with As the years grow older, in case any gentleman becomes ill, life will be unthinkable.

　　Things will not come because they are worried. One day in early 2017, Lao Li suffered a heart attack. Thanks to the help of his neighbors, he was taken to the hospital. The wife was left alone at home, but that night, the old lady felt dizzy and fell to the floor. At that moment, she thought she was going to finish. Lao Li said: "In the twilight years, the desire for family affection is not shifted by human will." The old couple finally decided to move into a nursing home. In contrast, the old man who gave the nanny's real estate was lucky. The child was not around, but he knew what he was cold and what was hot.

　　What if you are paid? Such companionship cannot be bought with money. There are many cases where the elderly are induced to buy by health care product salesmen, and the trick is actually very simple, that is, keep chatting with the elderly. More than ten or twenty days later, some old people even recognized god-sons and god-daughters, trusting them with all their heart. Some people say that they get confused when they get older. In fact, it's not that their IQ has fallen, but that they have lost their ability to judge when faced with something that they have longed for too long.

　　Today, when empty-nest elderly, left-behind children, and "widowed" marriages are prevalent, some people always complain that work and life are too difficult to balance. "I only have one pair of hands to move bricks, so I can't hold you." This sentence became their warmest shield. Is it true? In fact, companionship does not necessarily take a long time, it is just a state. When you are eating, do you talk to your family at home, or do you keep playing vibrato? How many seconds does it take to hug your partner and child when you go out? Does it take 2 minutes to make a phone call to the faraway parents every day? When you are on a business trip, report your itinerary to your family in the morning and evening, and care about your family, you only need to edit 2 pieces of information; go home from work and play chess with your children, it only takes 20 minutes; while washing, talking to your lover is just a matter of convenience No extra time is needed...

　　Accompanying is not the length of time, as long as you are willing, even if the two places are separated, you can have a small reunion. The writer Qiu Xiaoyu wrote a story about a female entrepreneur: She only meets with her husband twice a week because of work. However, every weekend, they will plan early where to go to play; each birthday, before the holiday, the two will work overtime, and then on the holiday day to spend time together. The two have never been alienated because of the long distance and hard work. Busy at work, tired at work, all are not excuses for not being able to accompany. One thing, as long as you want to do it, you must have time to do it.

　　It is said that companionship is the longest love confession. In your lifetime, don't let companionship become the most expensive luxury for you and your family.