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Growth education brought by a liar

 


  Several years ago, I watched a movie called "Growth Education", and I never forget it after watching it. A few days ago, I found out this movie and watched it again.

  Let me talk about the movie story first. For a 16-year-old girl who studies hard and wants to be admitted to Oxford University, her parents expect her to do so. On a rainy day, this girl named Jenny met David, who was a mature man, quite charming. After the two met, David took Jenny to listen to operas, buy paintings at auctions, and eat in high-end restaurants.

  On Jenny’s 17th birthday, David took Jenny to Paris, and then David proposed to Jenny. It was 1961, and it was a way out for a teenage girl to marry a man in his 30s. Jenny went to school with her engagement ring, and her English teacher was disappointed. Jenny was originally a smart girl, but she became confused when she met a man. The English teacher asked Jenny: "Does he admire your mind?" Jenny asked the teacher back: "What about college? You graduated from Cambridge, didn’t you teach here?"

  Jenny left the school, preparing to marry, but then found out David is lying. He is married and has children. Jenny's parents originally liked David, but unexpectedly met a liar and the family was hit hard. Jenny was hiding in the house and couldn't come out. Dad brought a cup of tea and stood at the door with shame and said: "Dad has been scared all his life." This is the most touching line in the movie. Yes, my dad has been afraid all his life-fear of losing his job, fear of not spending enough money, fear of losing his daughter in the competition, fear of her daughter being unfair to others-in the process of raising children, father has always been Scared.

  Jenny recovered, went back to school, and asked to re-study, but the stern headmistress refused her. Her English teacher took on the responsibility of extracurricular tutoring and helped her learn Latin. A year later, Jenny was admitted to Oxford University. She rode a bicycle and passed by the door of the Baolilou (Bodleian Library, Oxford University).

  This film is adapted from the memoirs of Lynn Babel, a reporter from The Times. After graduating from Oxford University, Babel first worked in "Loft" magazine, and then wrote articles for "Observer" magazine, and became a reporter specializing in interviews. When she was in her 60s, she wrote a short essay for "Granta" magazine. Later, a producer called her and said that she wanted to adapt this short essay into a movie. In 2009, the film was released.



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  The short essay of the original work, but only a dozen pages in length, is very concise and clear. In the prose, the liar is called "Simon" instead of "David". He is a habitual offender. He deceived several girls, made petty thefts, and went to jail. Babel said in the article: "He was a thief who sneaked into our house and stole the most precious thing of my parents-I, almost stole my Oxford dream. At that time, my parents knew neither fashion nor knowledge. Existentialism, they were deceived by this guy." Lynn Babel has been with this liar for two years, and she has learned a lesson, or received an education. We see what she says: What did I get from Simon? ? An education is an education my parents often talk about. During the two years of dating Simon, I learned about high-end restaurants, luxury hotels and overseas travel, learned a little about antiques, watched Bergman's movies, and listened to classical music. These things are still useful when I go to Oxford-I will look at the menu, know what a "finger bowl" is, can listen to opera, not a hillbilly. I have also become so sophisticated and entered Oxford, hoping to meet a boy my age, hoping that he is kind, decent, and well-mannered, even if he is a clumsy man. However, Simon also taught me something that I regret to learn-I learned not to believe in others, learned not to listen to what they say, but to watch what they do; I learned to doubt that someone or even everyone is deceiving the world. Skills; tend to believe that for some people, we just think we know them, but we don’t know anything-this helps me to be a good interviewer, but it is not helpful in life-I am too suspicious and too cautious, Too indifferent. This is the harm Simon has done to me.

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