A philosopher said: "Angle is more important than distance." People observe people and objects, not the closer they are, the more careful they see, but only from different angles and repeated observations can they understand more comprehensively, thoroughly, and clearly.
Angle is the starting point for observing people and things. From what angle people look at the problem, what conclusions will be drawn. Conclusions drawn from different angles are not only difficult to agree, but they are often very different.
Some people are used to looking at themselves from their own point of view. They always feel that they have not met their talents, and they always feel that they are unlucky, unhappy, and unhappy. As everyone knows, there are more people around who are watching you and evaluating you "with another eye". This "other eye" is another "angle". Look at you from the perspective of others: "Unsatisfied talents" may be the result of "bad performance", or an excuse for "self-deception", and it is even possible that you are a "mediocre and incompetent" generation. You can think that you are unhappy, but in the eyes of many people, you are "the lucky one who is haunted by happiness."
During the Warring States Period, Zhao Kuo, the son of Zhao She, a general of the State of Zhao, had been familiar with military books since he was a child, and he considered himself a military leader. It can be seen that the son is no better than the father, but Zhao She thinks that his son can only talk about it, and it is difficult to lead the army to fight the big task. In the "Changping Battle" between Zhao and Qin, Zhao Kuo replaced veteran Lian Po as the coach. Sure enough, he blindly copied the military books, but Zhao Jun was defeated. Zhao Kuo himself was shot to death by Qin Jun's arrows, and he was eventually infamous for "talking about soldiers on paper".
As the saying goes: "Know yourself and the enemy, and a hundred battles will never end." It is easy to understand the opponent but difficult to understand oneself. In fact, if you want to truly understand yourself, you might as well think from another perspective, and try to observe from the standpoint of others and from the perspective of others. In this way, you can get rid of the drawbacks of "feeling good" and truly get out of the misunderstanding of "perfectionism".
